To all my single friends I quote to you Nickelback's: "They say that a hero can save us I'm not gonna stand here and wait"
As a struggling single gal living in our beloved but still complicated society, I hang out with other struggling gals in Amman in an attempt to release some of life's stresses. We have gone through five hard years in college, most of us have hardly had time to comb our hair let alone find a boyfriend. And so, those years were over and were followed by four more years. Our eyes were full of energy and enthusiasm as we entered the market. Having such drive to be available at both; the workplace market, and the single market.
After those four years have passed; I can take the liberty to say that all of us have achieved so much in the former market, but many of us haven't in the latter. We sat and talked and I observed; "Ammani men are good for nothing!" confident as we are that those years have gained us enough experience to say that. One of us would always try to break the angry silence by making fake promises, that everything will be alright and the time will come when we're all happy and settled with the ones we love.
And then it hit me! We have reached a time at last in Amman that a girl's higher education has become a norm; which makes me and many others so proud. But it seems that a girl's life is targeted towards two materialistic objects that make everything else a small detail in a much complicated network created by these two. A bachelor's degree and a bachelor's wedding ring.
The funny thing is that me and my friends have known several examples of failed marriages that have entered us in confusion. Many marriages have resulted in early-age divorce, depression, and even betrayal.
We have to start using our minds more logically; as long as we understand the importance of having a goal in one's life, we know that it is logically ridiculous to hang our hopes that a single person can solve all our problems. Each phase you have achieved has brought you its own complications, having your first job has introduced you to a killer routine, getting an aspired promotion has handed you tons of paperwork and responsibilities. Then how come a groom would save you from your handmade misery?
I quote again from Nickelback's for all the single gals out there: "It isn't the love of a hero, and that's why I fear it won't do." (November 2010)
